Author - Miguel Dean

Balancing the Masculine and Feminine Within

‘If any human being is to reach full maturity both the masculine and feminine sides of the personality must be brought up into consciousness’. – M. Esther Harding

‘Ultimately, there is no division in life – it is the human mind that likes to label and separate things. The masculine and feminine are therefore two sides of the same coin.’

The state of our inner marriage (twin flame union) is often a good indicator and will mirror the quality of the relationships we have in the world.
The relationships I have with other men reflects to a large extent the relationship and health of my inner masculine which is largely to do with healing father wounds. In the same way I see that as I have healed and transformed my mother wounds and my inner feminine is increasingly healthy and at peace, this is reflected by the relationships and connections with women who show up in my world.

So it’s somewhat simplified but if you are single man and you want a good woman in your life then work on nurturing your inner feminine and when the time is right and your inner work has made good progress a woman will show up as a direct reflection of where you are now in your journey of inner marriage. She will almost certainly be kind enough to show you where there is still work to be done and there is still room for improvement too!
And the same will apply for a single woman that would like to be in a relationship with a man. Look within first…do your work… 🙂

Union within us reflects union in our outer relationships.
And inner balance means that we are deeper into the realms of self actualisation and this means that we are clearer conduits to express and channel and Be and embody Love and Truth, which is most welcome in the world at this powerful time of transformation and creation of a New Earth for ourselves, the children and generations to come.

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On Kindness

So I was at the supermarket checkout with my favourite cashier Serena yesterday, who I have a good rapport with. I gave her a copy of my book a few weeks earlier and while I pack my groceries we talk about my book and Love and The Goddess and other things.

Yesterday I was feeling really low. My body is busy doing some serious purging and my skin is sore in places and in particular my eyes. I often feel ugly and less than, when I am not looking/feeling my best. It’s an old story that is almost deleted about childhood eczema and my step mum’s response to my eczema as inconvenient for her and that I was causing extra work and that the fragments of love available were withheld for having eczema.

But Serena helped me massively yesterday in a few words that she she shared with me as I left. She mentioned how my eyes looked rather sore and suggested something that might help and as if she knew how I was feeling she added ‘ but you know you are still beautiful just as you are.’
In my tender state I almost burst into tears as this is my healing mantra of late which is reflected back to me in so many ways from so many beautiful people that I am blessed to have in my life. We shared a few sweet moments of eye contact and I thanked her deeply adding that if she was not behind the checkout I would have been giving her a big hug!

And I just share this little story to remind us of how powerful and important a few kindly spoken words can be to a friend or a ‘stranger’. It is worth remembering too that there really are no strangers. What we say to others is us speaking to ourselves since ‘others’ is just an illusion of the mind.

In these times of change and great opportunity let’s remember to be there for each other. Let’s practice random acts of kindness and speak only love as much as we can. You never know what a huge impact a word, a smile, a hug might have on your own or other’s lives.

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Strength in Softness

The further you travel this path, this journey back to Love and Truth the more paradoxical everything seems to become. My experience is that that the doorway Home is through the heart.

I heard many years ago that the greatest journey that we shall ever make is the journey from the head to the heart! How true!:

When we were innocent children we lived from our hearts and the world taught us that it was not correct or safe to do this so we began our retreat into the prison of the head and mind.
In order to return to the realm of the heart we have to open and soften and have the courage to feel all those things in our bodies that we believed were too painful to feel.
The wall that I built around my heart stopped me feeling the intensity of pain from people and life but it also stopped me from feeling joy and ecstasy and bliss and Love.

Now after many years my wall of protection has been dismantled. For the most part I am back home in my heart and wow does it feel good!

The only strength we really need is the strength and courage to feel that which we were not able to fully feel then. In order to do this we need to be still, to be open, to surrender. Emotions themselves cease to be so terrifying when we quieten the mind and just feel into our bodies and fully experience the emotions as sensations in our bodies. It is our interpretation of the emotions with the mind that accentuates and prolongs the pain.

The return and rising of the divine feminine is asking us to find the strength in our softness. Old paradigm strength is redundant on this leg of the journey home.

The willow tree is a soft wood. But it’s softness means that when the wild winds blow it bends and yields and instead of being snapped and broken by its resistance to the wind it takes the wind as a dancing partner and they dance together. While the mighty oak in its rigidity may have its limbs torn asunder in the storm!!

There is strength in softness. They say that what doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.
Fuck that!

What I say is that what doesn’t kill you is an opportunity to be softer more compassionate, more empathetic, more heart centred. For me this is true strength. Namaste.

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Gratitude, Grace and Feeling

Do you ever feel so full of gratitude and awe at the miracle of this Life that it feels as if you will burst from the vibrating pressure of white fire that burns within your chest?
Do you ever marvel at the magic and beauty of these senses that we have been given to experience this miracle of creation?
When was the last time you really, fully tasted the flavours and textures of a delicious piece of chocolate as it shifts and softens, caressed by your loving tongue melting into the warmth of your moist mouth?
When was the last time that you really stopped still, motionless, silent, under the vast sky and allowed your self to smell the gorgeous, damp, fecund, brown and green of this sacred earth?
When was the last time that you gazed with grace at the setting sun behind a myriad patchwork of shapes and colours and real-eyesed the marvel of your vision, your sight; these eyes that are so small and yet see so much?
And when did you last pause and wonder about who or what it is that looks out from behind these eyes?
When did you last marvel at the gift of hearing? How does that work? Not the science but the magic? How can it be that the beauty of music enters in through our ears and permeates our bodies so that it speaks directly to our heart and touches our soul? What grace is this?
O and this delicate most precious gift of touch. Remember to touch and feel. Remember to allow and invite your self to be held and touched lovingly by those who value and appreciate the unique spark of divinity that you are. Feel the tingle of excitement and energy ripple through you when you look into a loved one’s soft eyes and touch their face tenderly.
Yes, there are challenges on this journey home to the full realisation of the Love that we are. It seems that sometimes the road is littered with rocks and stones and craters and fallen branches; But when did you really, truly give thanks for every perceived obstacle, that you know in truth has only helped you along your way home?
Do you allow yourself to feel everything that Life brings your way? Breathing deeply and feeling it all, feeling fully the curious sensations of energy in your body. Feeling them and knowing that you are alive and you were born to feel.
When you are done with old stories and suffering and mundanity then allow gratitude and grace to be your companions and remember the fragility and fleetingness of this sacred life that you have been gifted. Feel deeply, fully, wholeheartedly into the eternal Now of this moment and know that you are alive and Life itself. Namaste

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Youth Mentoring On the Front Line

For the last 20 years part of my service has included working with disadvantaged teenagers. There are millions of them in this country. I guess we are all a product of the environment in which we were raised and since society is pretty insane and dysfunctional then so are our youth to varying degrees.:-(

Yesterday I felt like I was running on empty. I know people deal with much heavier stuff than me and my heart goes out to them. But yesterday my one to ones with my youth clients just finished me off and I had to run to the hills. I lay on the earth and let Her hold me and I fell asleep for a while. After that I started to feel a bit lighter but it was a tough day.

I sat in the cafe with my first young client while he told me about how his mum was so mean to his girlfriend because she was jealous and that his mom wanted him to stay as a little boy because she didn’t want him to grow up and leave home. I have worked for 9 months with Steve and as is often the case it was the parents that really needed working with!
Next I saw Bob, he was an hour late for our meeting but I busied myself for an hour in the cafe doing loads of pointless paperwork that somebody might glance at and check to decide whether they release the funds to ensure the organisation gets to continue trying to help the kids. Bob told me about how he had been kicked out of his home twice by his father since I had last seen him. Not the most conducive conditions to raising self esteem etc. Steve smokes loads of weed. It helps numb him out and stops him feeling the lack of love from his father.
Then I saw Wayne. He was in the library trying to get an emergency payment to get some electric on in his flat. He lost his wallet on a drunk night out, Wayne is an expert at making life difficult for himself. He is diabetic. His mother took an injunction out so that he can’t go near her. His father beat him up last time he saw him. He talks about suicide a lot. The electric company said he can’t have any electricity on credit and Wayne’s phone rings at that moment. Then a guy from the library comes over and tells Wayne to put his phone on silent. Wayne loses it, pushes a chair over and storms out of the library. I apologise to the librarian and explain that he is having a BAD day and set off running after Wayne. I catch him up down the road and he tells me he needs some time alone. I say I can’t help if you won’t let me but he is adamant. I have to let him walk away and I make my way back to my car with my tail between my legs. I’ll be in touch with him later when he has calmed down, That was when I knew I needed to run to the hills.

Later on at home I get this message request through Face Book. This young lady bothered to find me and write this. I know a bit about her from Joe. She has had a terrible start to life:

‘Heya this is Joe’s misses I just want to thank you for everything you have done for Joe you helped us get back together and I am grateful for it and Joe told me it’s your last session so I just wanted to thank you so much for everything you have done you are a truly wonderful person and he told me u have had a massive impact on his life and he is a better person good luck with the next child and carry on having a great life remember live laugh and love always smile and always be happy it’s something we will keep up so thank you. I hope what I wrote made sense lol’

Messages like this tend to cancel out all the shitty stuff

‘Society grows great when old men plant trees in whose shade they know they shall not sit.’ Proverb

Our youth are tender saplings!

 

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Do you understand the true nature of twin flame relationship? 

Twin Flames

‘Do not be fooled by Her sweet, alluring smile or lulled into a false sense of security by the kindness of Her gentle voice or the shy glances from Her pretty eyes.
She is a Siren and Her most precious gift to you, will be to entice you on to the Ocean of Love, to set sail, innocently unaware of the hidden secrets beneath Her sometimes calm and sometimes tempestuous waters.
The delicious curves of Her Goddess like form will invite you to navigate the stormy waves of Her ruthless integrity while your destiny beckons you onto the jagged rocks of your own fear and cowardice.
And there, as you lie bleeding and desolate, the poison that lay blocked and trapped in the deepest place of your pierced heart, will trickle forth and you shall be purged.
Your excruciating pain will ebb and flow to be dissolved in the infinite Ocean of Love while its salty water will both sting and cleanse your open wound.
And there will be a deep and profound healing as your self-worth and honour return.
Battered and bloody you shall crawl over the sharp rocks and then scramble to kinder ground to rest until you are ready to walk again;
Eventually dried by the sun’s rays and soothed by the cool breeze you will again stand; upright and proud, taller than you have ever been before you shall make your way back to your rightful throne, that awaited you for so long, empty and neglected.
And as you feel into the unfamiliarity and unexpected peace of this new place you shall be filled with a vast sense of wonder and awe and humility at the power and magic of Her.
And yes She too shall have her voyage for though She is a Siren She is a child too. And there will be times when Her wounds will need dressing; wounds from the coarse tear of old, binding ropes.
Tend them with your strong, loving hands.
She too will need to be held softly and tenderly while old tears fall from Her weary eyes rising up from the depths of Her wounded heart.
She will need your patience and kindness; there will be no place for fear infused thoughts, words or actions.
And yet She will test you time and time again to make sure you are worthy of entering the deepest places within Her sacred body and soul where holy treasures lie.
When you appear to fail, She may be ruthless at first but Her kindness will grow as She learns to trust and forgive once again.
Your discernment will need to be sharp and true if you are to be clear of when to cut through the emotional tangled knots of Her past;
And to know when to speak from the depths of your sovereignty in order to pull Her from the waters of her own floundering self-doubt.
You must know when to guide Her, though at first She will not be willing, addicted as She is to her own autonomy forged over years and years from the interminable weakness of previous lovers.
And you must know when to be guided by Her.
You must know when to listen softly and gently, holding Her hand tenderly or stroking Her silken hair while silencing the cacophony of voices in your head demanding you to advise or to fix or to mend.
Remember that She is your crystal clear mirror and that what you see in Her, is your Self.
What you forgive in Her is what you forgive in your Self.
She has come to destroy who you thought you were and to make you whole and your task is to gift Her the same treasure.
This new land will be beyond your wildest dreams.
Are you ready to be loved by a woman such as this?
Then lay down your weapons for the rules of engagement here are nakedness, vulnerability and deep, raw, honesty.
Your prize shall be a great peace within and Love will flow through and into you in a way which your mind could never have begun to comprehend.

Set sail on the Ocean of Love and set your course for home.’

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