Author - Miguel Dean

Working Toward Divine Union of Sacred Masculine and Feminine

We know unequivocally that the return to peace and love and communion between man and woman is a key part of creating ‘the more beautiful world that our hearts know is possible’ perhaps for our selves but more importantly for the children and the generations to come.

But where do we begin with this seemingly huge piece of work that needs to be done when there seems to be so much disharmony and separation between many men and women? Where there could be intimacy and closeness or even direct experience of the Oneness of Life through the merging of two hearts and souls in complete Love and surrender there are often vast wastelands of separation.

In my experience when confronted with a daunting task, pretty much anywhere is a good place to begin. There are no wrong choices when we decide to do what needs to be done. The only wrong choice is to do nothing.

It seems to me that when I look back on my journey the greatest steps to freedom and peace have been made when I look within. It’s important to remember that the outer world we experience with our senses is but a reflection of our inner world, the stories we have created to make sense of our experiences and our beliefs which are sometimes unconscious.

There are key indicators that will inform you what your beliefs are around intimate relationship with the opposite sex. Here is one:

What is your relationship like with your mother or father? To what extent are you at peace with them? To what extent is there still a parent child dynamic? How honest are you with them?

Our parents form templates on which we unconsciously base our later adult relationships.

After many years I am at peace with my father who was absent because of his career choice and I am at peace with step mother who was pretty abusive for most of my childhood. But it took a while to arrive at this place.

I achieved this with little or no conversations about the matter with my parents. I worked mostly with one question?

What do I need to do in order to become the parent to myself now that I wish I had when I was a child?

It’s pretty simple. You find out what you feel you missed out on and you give it to your self now, and you give it to everyone you meet too. It’s pretty simple really. It just takes commitment and perseverance and a little resilience and patience. If you really want something then you will do what it takes.

This work facilitates and catalyses the inner marriage of masculine and feminine within each of us.
This one exercise alone is extremely key in healing the wounds within so that we become a clearer, cleaner and brighter proposition for a potential suitor. Real Change is always an INSIDE job! If you are looking outwardly and blaming and critcising the opposite sex then maybe it would be worth looking within a little more. When you change the energy of who you are then your world and the people you meet will change too.

Let’s not get lost in blaming and shaming like children; let’s take full responsibility for our own shit, let’s have the courage where we could to do more…no matter how many times we have been let down in the past, when the conditions are right, when the ground is prepared with love and care and vigilance, then beautiful flowers will grow and miracles do happen.



Meet Me On The Bridge

They met on the bridge and he held her tight and she held him. They were two as One and the earth span and the birds sang and the white clouds raced over the vast, blue, blue sky.

When they were ready they walked over to the edge of the bridge and looked up stream at the clear water flowing, gurgling, singing gently to itself.

They had made a pact. That they would surrender everything to The River of Life and let go to the Great Mystery beyond the doors of perception and the small puddle mind.

One at a time they carefully and compassionately took their fear and held it in their hands and looked deep into each others eyes. When they were ready they placed their fear on the wall of the bridge and turned to face themselves in each other again.

This time they took their love and tenderly placed it on the wall beside their fear. They had decided to let go of everything. Again they looked deep into each others eyes and without words said everything that they needed to say to each other.

When they were once again ready they stepped forward hand in hand and with their free hands they pushed their love and fear off the bridge and watched it enter The River and disappear momentarily before rising again and disappearing under the bridge.

They ran to the other side of the bridge and waited for love and fear to reappear so that they could bid them farewell and watch them disappear downstream.

After a long time and in no time at all love reappeared bobbing gently in the current but there was no sign of fear.

They watched silently as love dissolved into The River until it was no longer visible. Only The River remained.

They turned and faced each other one last time. Carefully he helped her up onto the wall before climbing up himself.

Holding hands they jumped.
As One they fell and disappeared into the water.

And the earth span and the birds sang and the white clouds raced over the vast, blue, blue sky.


Authentic, Sacred Masculinity

Let’s talk about authentic, sacred masculinity. Because talking is the beginning, then comes the doing….
There is an inner compass within each man that will guide him on this path if he chooses to walk this way.

When we consider that the majority of key players in shaping the way society and the world game has evolved were and are men you have to question whether this is the best we can do?
What if there was another type of man? What if there are aspects of masculinity that have been diminished and suppressed and hidden? What if some of the shadowy less beautiful aspects of the average man are the results of suppression and distortion?

Of course the current planetary situation is also due to the suppression of the divine feminine. When the masculine and feminine principles and people are not equally honoured and in balance things will go out of Kilter. It is time for She to rise again and be seen and witnessed and elevated to her rightful place on her throne beside the sacred, loving masculine.

If the sacred and more conscious, loving, courageous, authentic is arising within me then why would it not also be happening in many other of my brothers across the planet? Of course it is. I am reminded of this by my conversation with Todd Medina on Soulogy last night.

Big changes often start with an idea, a thought and then conversations happen and this is the beginning of the alchemy from unmanifest to manifest. Now is a good time to walk our talk; to get shit done.

And now is a good time to have the courage to return to the realm of the heart where we can feel and set free all those emotions that we were taught as young men to hide and deny. ‘Emotions that are buried alive never die!’
When we decide to regain our sovereignty we embark on our hero’s journey that is not for the feint of heart.
Will it hurt? YES at times….and if we drop the mind we will feel more and more that ‘it hurts beautifully.’
Feel, purge, purify…
As we descended down into the feeling realms we also ascend.
Now is a good time to for rising, for stepping up for the children and all the generations to come and all sentient beings in the seen and unseen realms. Aho!



The Language of Love

The Truth is we all speak the same language but most have forgotten how to speak it. Feeling is the universal language of humanity that is spoken by the heart and body.
The greatest journey we will ever make is from the head back home to the heart!!
This takes courage for on this journey we may have to feel every thing that was not felt fully from our human story.
But the prize is great because as we arrive back at the heart and it opens to welcome us we are born again into aliveness and we experience awe, joy, bliss that we could not feel before.
And once we all begin speaking the same language we can no longer consider hurting another living being as we come into our true alignment of compassion, kindness and Love.


Loving Your Inner Child

Yesterday I was interviewed  for the powerful Illuminated Man Summit which is all about Rites of Passage and authentic masculinity.
The last question that he asked me was one which I have been asked before but for some reason it touched me extra deeply and I found myself momentarily engulfed in a wave of emotion and my eyes teared up.

He asked me::
‘If you could go back into the past and visit the boy Miguel, with what you know now, what would you say to him?’

I don’t recollect everything I said but I know the first thing I said was that I would wrap him up in my man arms and give him a massive bear cuddle and I would tell him that it’s all gonna be just fine.

In the photo above I guess I was about 14 years old. I was dressed up for my part in a drama production called The Dracula Spectacular. I guess I look like an average kind of boy having an average kind of middle class life.
But I know I was extremely nervous, unsure of myself and anxious and scared all the time about the abusive atmosphere at home that pervaded my childhood.
There is something very paradoxical about the sacredness of our personal stories. It is My story which needs owning and honouring and coming to peace with in order to arrive at a place beyond my story where I recognise that the truth of who I am is deeper and untouched by this human story.

I told my interviewer that I would reassure the child Miguel that he has more courage and strength and resources inside himself than he could ever imagine. I would tell him that he was not alone and that he is always Love and Loved. I would tell him that one day he would understand why everything had to happen the way that it did in order to become the man he would become; ready to do the work that he was born to do.
So I am very grateful to the question and being given the opportunity to give a big hug, some tender parenting and reassurance to the little boy who will always reside inside me.

What would you say to your little boy or girl if you could go back (which you can any time) and speak to them?

It’s a powerful exercise.
As in any marriage the successful marriage of the inner divine masculine and feminine is dependent on taking good care of the children! Today is a good day to honour and Love the child within.


‘There is no such thing as a stranger. Just people whose stories we haven’t yet heard.’

As I headed out for my morning walk today I walked past a mother with two toddlers. One was in his push chair and as I walked past he kept shouting ‘Hiya’ to me. I turned round and waved to him and his little voice kept chirping out ‘Hi’ as I walked into the distance.
I was aware that his mother didn’t reprimand him and that it was mutually considered to be cute and acceptable. This led me to wondering at what age children are taught not to talk to strangers. Although I understand the reason behind this advice to young people (health and safety!) it also saddens me that we live in a society where this is the norm.
It seems that the instruction ‘to not talk to strangers’ comes from a place of fear. When we tell our children this we are communicating to them that the world is not a safe place to be. It seems to reinforce the belief that we are not all connected and that other humans are not to be trusted and that they might cause you harm. What would society look like if this fear based belief did not underpin the way young people enter into society independently?
I am fully aware that there are people in the world who are ignorant, unwell and are not to be trusted but to believe that there are so many untrustworthy people out there, that just to be on the safe side it is better not to talk to anyone, seems a bit bizarre. Just imagine how many beautiful encounters may be missed by integrating this fear based belief and carrying it into adult hood and then passing it on to our children.
I find myself talking to strangers more and more these days because I know that we are all connected and if I can offer a little kindness, a little of my time and presence to someone then I feel nourished and in alignment with who I really am.
I believe that the toddler I met this morning was also in alignment with the truth that we are all connected and there is nothing really to fear. Some may call it ignorance but I call it innocence. And I believe that the new world that is arising as the old falls apart will be one where the word ‘stranger’ becomes obsolete.
I just hope that my toddler friend can hold onto his innocence and innate knowing before it becomes too heavily blanketed by fear.