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Autumn Equinox and the Balance of The Sacred Masculine and Feminine

The mid point between the summer and winter solstice is almost upon us. This is the day when the hours of day and night are the same all over the world and in the Northern Hemisphere it is the time of thanksgiving for the harvest we have gathered in preparation for the darker more wintry months ahead . It is a time of balance and also a time when we take stock of the inner harvest we have reaped from our work over the spring and summer months. These festivals were celebrated with a reverence and honouring of the turning of the seasons, the cycles of birth and death and the sacredness of all life.
This time of balance is also a time of union and of reconciling opposites and I see no greater calling for this than in the polarities that currently exist between men and women.
Patriarchy is responsible for so many generations of abuse, mistrust and pain that has been inflicted on woman. And the result of men not being in alignment with their true selves has had a massive detrimental health on their psyche too. So we find ourselves in a sort of stand-off where men and women are aware of the need for union and balance but in order to attain this there are generations of distorted ideas, beliefs, conditioning, grief and pain to be transformed and healed. There is a vast wasteland of shadow ground to be traversed in order to find our way back into each other’s arms with deep forgiveness, compassion and love for ourselves and each other. And this can perhaps be done in a moment too!
How many lives have I lived as a woman and was wronged by man? How many lives have I lived as a man and have wronged woman? It’s time to lay the past to rest.
When we see from our higher selves we remember that it doesn’t matter so much which body we are in now; that of a man or a woman. I don’t mean to belittle any trauma that anyone has experienced. I deal with my own shame and guilt for being a man and have shed plenty of tears for the atrocities that have and continue to be inflicted on women and children. But we have all suffered enough and it is time for forgiveness and peace. We were all lost and we are all wounded and at the same time we are eternal souls, we are glowing beacons of love and light. I don’t believe that any of the wounds I have suffered in any life time can tarnish the Love that is at the centre of my being.
We are the generation that is being asked to do this work. We are the voice that shouts out, like Gandalf the wizard in Lord of the Rings “Thou shalt not pass!”
‘I will not pass this wounded psyche onto my children or the generations to come.’
And so we do our work. We look inside and we reconcile the wounded masculine and feminine parts of ourselves. We feel what we never thought we would be able to feel. We find that we are more alive than we thought possible, once the healing flames have burnt away the pain which we carried for so long.
So perhaps as the autumn equinox arrives with its reminder about balance and union and reconciling opposites we might take a moment to look inside so that we can take one more step towards the marriage of masculine and feminine within each of our hearts. We embrace both energies and know that with increasing inner balance we see through a cleaner lens of our loving hearts in the present moment.
‘We are the ones we have been waiting for’. ‘We walk each other home’. We are the fulcrum to hold balance and bring union to a world that is much in need of this. When the two become One…
Autumn Equinox Blessings of Love, Union and Balance to One and all. 
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Autumn Moments

The brambles, with their spiky tendrils now offer their sweet blackberries too.

Which will you choose?

What path will you take now that you have arrived here?

What treasures of heart and mind have you harvested these long summer days?

What roads have you traveled with sunshine and rain, through the labyrinth of thoughts and emotions?

Who are you now that you were not, before these summer moons had passed?

The adventure of this being human unfolds as we feel the turning of our leaves and a richness within that we have gathered from a collection of myriad moments. gifted to us to arrange and sort and sift through at our pleasure.

Do not miss the opportunity to witness, to observe, to drink in these moments. They are priceless for they are really all we ever have. Sacred moments that tumble and spin together like golden leaves caught in a swirling dance, only to be blown from our memories, though they still leave a subtle trace in our hearts.

O the fleetingness of these moments, the fragility of breath, the beauty, the ugliness, the distorted and the magnificent, the pain and the sheer joy of this human existence at this autumn time.

The cool morning air from the open window is felt upon my human edges.

My skin feel s and my heart feels and all of my body is awash with sensations, tingling, humming, vibrating; I am energy dancing;  fast and frenetic and a slow gentle waltz.

And though the boughs of my life feel heavy at times for they are laden with juicy apples,  this heaviness is welcome for there is a weight of certainty behind my knowing that all is well.

The air is cool and yet the sun will rise again, there will be warmth before the light fades and this day is also done.

The wheel of life keeps on turning and I will watch and learn and feel, ever more fully, more deeply, more gratefully, knowing the sacredness of these autumn moments.

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The Rising of the Sacred, Primal Masculine

I feel it rising in me as I deepen my rewilding.  My embracing of my humanness, the earthiness, the darkness deep within the earth is within me too and it is welcome for it will not be denied. It has not always been this way for me and so as I change, I see this changing and rising in brothers that I know too. I am witnessing this masculine energy being purified in women also.  Beneath the thin veneer of male or female bodies we are genderless in the dance of divine masculine and feminine energies.

We are all doing our best and it is a hard road to travel at times. When all the external forces and internal voices of fear attempt to hold us back, to keep us in the false distorted ideas of what a man or a woman is.

I see that central to mans journey to sacred masculinity is to have the courage to feel that which we were afraid to feel. To leave the realm of the head and return to the kingdom of the heart, to transform the old pain so there is potential to experience Life in a way that we never thought possible; to realise that we have been asleep for so long, imprisoned behind the numb bars of the mind.
In the deepest darkest scariest places is where our treasure lies. The feelings of past unexpressed feelings are that dark cave and the treasure is guarded by dragons. But the dragons are actually beautiful when we get to know them, when we begin to dance with fear and ride on the back of dragons miracles happen!

There are millions of wounded men who had no role models, we were shamed by fathers and mothers, our fathers were absent or beat us or mocked us. We were taught that big boys don’t cry so all our pain got locked away. My step mother used to say to me ‘I’ll give you something to cry for.’ when I cried and she would hit me. My tears still do not flow as freely as I would like them to. 🙁

We men need the kindness, compassion and understanding of woman because we too have been abandoned, abused and left feeling lost and disoriented. That doesn’t mean that women should take any shit off us either!! There is a place for soft and tough Love.

Remember that the work we do to reunite the divine masculine and feminine within each of us is not just for ourselves. We are creating a new template for the children and the generations to come. It may take generations before True Love between man and woman becomes the norm but the journey IS the destination. And it may happen in a moment too! We do this work for us and to serve the collective and the innocent children to come. We are the trailblazers and doing this work is a good way to spend our precious time here on planet earth!!

The primal Shakti infused masculine is rising. We men our now give ourselves permission to embody all aspects of sacred masculinity.
Keeping the faith and keeping our hearts open is key. Let’s not make man or woman the enemy. Let’s keep nurturing our tender strength and compassion for ourselves and our brothers and sisters as we continue walking each other home.  We either do this all together or not at all. Namaste <3

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The Door is Open But Will You Step In?

What we perceive with our five senses of touch, smell, sight, taste and hearing is just the very tip of the ice-berg. There is much more ‘going on,’ much more data available in each moment than we can experience with the limitations of these human senses even though they are miraculous in themselves. If you need evidence of this just consider a bird on the lawn listening for the movement of worms beneath the surface. We can’t hear what a bird can hear because of the narrow band range within which our hearing operates. But never the less it exists. The same can be said of our smell if you consider how a dog can smell things from a distance that we cannot.  Nature provides endless evidence that there is more going on than we are aware. Wifi, electricity and radio waves etc are all invisible to our eyes but never-the-less we know they exist.  So this begs the question: What else is going on beyond the limitations of our senses?  The answer is that there are infinite possibilities and to begin to feel deeply into the miracle and mystery of life we must be open to this ‘not knowing’.

Secondly we need to be aware of the limitations of our minds. It seems to me that what we can perceive with our minds is possibly just a small puddle and beyond our usual human mind perception is an infinite ocean.  This is what Hesse alluded to in his book ‘Beyond The Doors Of Perception.’ It is ignorant and arrogant to believe that what we can comprehend is the totality of what actually exists. This is what Einstein was referring to when he said ‘Imagination is greater than knowledge,’ because first something new must be birthed or arrive in our minds through imagination but where does that idea or thought arrive from?  I suspect that it arrives from ‘beyond the veil’ of what we can ‘get our heads round’. This is in essence the dance of the masculine and feminine or yin and yang as the feminine is constantly birthing or manifesting creation in its myriad forms and that from which this arises is the masculine principle or consciousness.  From the emptiness comes fullness. Form moves and is birthed from stillness.  If we are able to entertain this truth, this then logically offers the question ‘what else lies beyond the veil?’  I propose that the answer is infinite possibilities.  And remember that infinity is rather large and itself is something else that we can’t really comprehend with our minds!

There is a bigger unknown picture that we are part of.  Perhaps it is time to really KNOW this and to walk through the door of perception. It is always open. <3

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The Kiss of Awakening

I remember my first proper kiss with my Beloved.  I was distinctly surprised by the passion, intensity and power of the kiss, as until that moment she had seemed quite shy and reserved.  It was a beautiful moment and the power of a kiss is something that has stayed with me.

On one of my many walks on the land I recently remembered the fairy story of Sleeping Beauty and how she is awakened by a kiss from the prince. I was immediately struck that it seemed to be the other way round in my experience and that there was something so magical and powerful about the kiss that I experienced from woman that it gave me the courage to undergo the next challenging part of my own awakening.  To all intents and purposes I was still asleep as I had not yet faced the dragon of old emotional pain that lay waiting for me in the darkest cave of my own deep mother wound. The kisses from my Beloved and our adventures in sacred sexuality was a great motivator to stay the course when things got really challenging!

Looking at things from more of a macro perspective it does seem that in this path of ascension or awakening that it is woman who leads the way.  There are many more women who are immersed in the field of spiritual growth than men and this seems to be connected to some extent by the fact that women are more in their bodies than men.  Giving birth, periods and their connection with Mother Earth the Great Creator Goddess is key in this.  Most of us now know that the we must fully embody our humanity if we are to enter the realms of the 5th dimension or the New Earth in which Love becomes the primary energy as opposed to fear but men often struggle with this.

Men have grown up with the programming that ‘big boys don’t cry’ and have been conditioned to avoid, suppress and numb out any feelings that have been labelled as demonstrating weakness or revealing that they are anything but fully in their strength and power. This seems to be the unconscious message of patriarchy in a disastrous attempt to maintain ‘power over’ and pretend that ‘it’s all okay, everything is under control’ while the planet and sentient beings suffer. Of course women have suffered the craziness of denying emotions too but not to the extent that men have and this is one of the reasons why in the United Kingdom alone 16 men commit suicide every day.

But the reality is that the energy of the Sacred Man is rising. If it is rising in me it is happening in others and recent encounters and feedback from my community of conscious brothers and sisters echoes this. How do we catalyse this further awakening amongst men? One thing for sure is that it is not always helpful for women to keep asking where are all the conscious men? My answer to this is always the same:

Your beliefs will determine your reality.  If you believe there are few conscious men that is what your experience will be. Don’t sit around waiting for them to show up or complaining when the ‘wrong’ man arrives because whoever is there. In front of you, will to some extent, be a mirror reflection of your own inner masculine energy. Focus on healing your own inner masculine because the wounds that patriarchy has inflicted stretch back through many generations and run deep in men and women and there is much work to be done to create the New Earth and merge in the yin yang union of divine masculine and feminine so that we can re-member that we are One. We are Life itself having a human, virtual reality, duality experience. Don’t all the great teachers and mystics say that we experience duality to know Oneness!?  Instead of men and women berating each other why don’t we ask ourselves the question:

What can I do to help and serve my brothers or my sisters?

A safe bet is always: Do your inner work!

Society encourages us to look outside to find peace and happiness but transformation and healing is essentially always an inside job. Others and tools may help but it is us who have to learn to fall in love with ourselves and to do this we must face and banish all that is not love from within.

Let’s not get too hung up on gender and swing the pendulum from patriarchal abuse of power to man bashing and a whole new wave of spiritual bypass feminism.  The crimes against women by man for hundreds of years have been an abomination and so much of this continues right now and although we would do well to alleviate the immediate suffering, the long term solution, the roots of healing the craziness of disharmony between man and woman lies in deepening our own sacred practices and alchemising the divine twin flame union within each of us.

In this life time we are either in a male or female body but let’s not get too fixated about this.  I wonder how many lifetimes I have experienced as a woman? I just happen to be in male body this time but I know that beneath this façade of gender I am genderless.  Beneath the ideas of God or Goddess The Creator, The Great mystery or consciousness is genderless. We are all in this together and now is the time for the laying down of weapons. The time for unity, union, balance and harmony. It sounds very likely that patriarchy hijacked the sleeping beauty story and that its origins actually lie in the Babylonian myth of the Goddess Innana who ventured into the underworld to kiss awake her lover Tammuz. And this myth seems to be happening right now again. We are all living this myth but note that the myth says that Innana kissed Tammuz and he awoke, not that she kicked him and he awoke!!

The kiss of a lover is a powerful and magical act as I know from my own experience.  Let’s facilitate lots of inner kissing of our divine masculine and feminine principles and let’s see how this shows up in the world.  I believe passionate, loving kisses between men and women and women and women and men and men would be a good thing. It doesn’t really bother me who is kissing who. Let’s just focus on kissing ourselves and each other awake.

Love and kisses. Namaste…

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The Sacred Masculine Is Coming Home And Is Already Home…

The homecoming of the sacred masculine doesn’t just mean that men are becoming more conscious, that they are making the journey back home to the heart and to feeling. It’s about men and women finding balance with our beautiful minds and hearts that are pristine diamonds beneath the layers of conditioning and misinformation and lies that have led to unhelpful beliefs about ourselves and this world of form.

Most of my clients in my Sacred Masculine Healing Sessions are women and for the most part they are healing and transforming the wounds of their own inner masculine. Generations of being let down, abandoned, abused, dishonored and violated has left some deep wounds. But woman often leads the way with her courage and as she heals her divine masculine aspect of the twin flame within this has a profound impact on the collective of men too.

Men and women have both been lost to the truth of who we are. We have both suffered and projected and developed toxic and distorted strategies to compensate for our pain and sense of abandonment and separation. Now is the time for balance and unity.

There is change amongst the community of men too. I am connected more with brothers who are doing their work and their light is shining brighter. I am doing my work, I am facing my shadows daily and as we each do this, these seemingly small steps make an unquantifiable difference to the whole.

Every great journey begins with a single step. Remember that you are so much more than you can comprehend with your mind. Death and birth of these bodies is just a drop in the ocean of potential and the Truth of The Great Mystery. Everything happens for your highest good. Look within. Don’t project onto others. Don’t take stuff personally. Stay centred and be at peace. Make love your center and not fear. Relax. Enjoy the ride! Don’t give yourself a hard time for having a hard time. Find the blessing hidden in plain sight of every occurrence. This is IT! The journey is the destination. There is nowhere to arrive at but here and now in presence. You are a spark of The Divine.

‘All is well and all manner of things shall be well!’

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