Tag - kindness

Loving Your Inner Child

Yesterday I was interviewed  for the powerful Illuminated Man Summit which is all about Rites of Passage and authentic masculinity.
The last question that he asked me was one which I have been asked before but for some reason it touched me extra deeply and I found myself momentarily engulfed in a wave of emotion and my eyes teared up.

He asked me::
‘If you could go back into the past and visit the boy Miguel, with what you know now, what would you say to him?’

I don’t recollect everything I said but I know the first thing I said was that I would wrap him up in my man arms and give him a massive bear cuddle and I would tell him that it’s all gonna be just fine.

In the photo above I guess I was about 14 years old. I was dressed up for my part in a drama production called The Dracula Spectacular. I guess I look like an average kind of boy having an average kind of middle class life.
But I know I was extremely nervous, unsure of myself and anxious and scared all the time about the abusive atmosphere at home that pervaded my childhood.
There is something very paradoxical about the sacredness of our personal stories. It is My story which needs owning and honouring and coming to peace with in order to arrive at a place beyond my story where I recognise that the truth of who I am is deeper and untouched by this human story.

I told my interviewer that I would reassure the child Miguel that he has more courage and strength and resources inside himself than he could ever imagine. I would tell him that he was not alone and that he is always Love and Loved. I would tell him that one day he would understand why everything had to happen the way that it did in order to become the man he would become; ready to do the work that he was born to do.
So I am very grateful to the question and being given the opportunity to give a big hug, some tender parenting and reassurance to the little boy who will always reside inside me.

What would you say to your little boy or girl if you could go back (which you can any time) and speak to them?

It’s a powerful exercise.
As in any marriage the successful marriage of the inner divine masculine and feminine is dependent on taking good care of the children! Today is a good day to honour and Love the child within.

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Yes! Love is a way of Life! 

Are you being undone too? Unraveled? Is there confusion in the mind?
It seems to me that confusion in the mind arises when false and truth meet.
It seems that the old lies, programming, the shackles and chains, the blinkers are falling apart, their grip is loosening and the truth is emerging more and more and because it is so radically different from what we were taught to believe it causes confusion.
We have reached the edged of the map and there is only a blank page now. There is nothing recorded to follow and so we must make the path by placing one foot in front of the other, Integrity, truth, love and kindness are the components of the compass that guide us now. And remembering…we are remembering.

Love is not about a relationship with someone or a select few!
When we realise the Love that we are, we fall in Love with Life itself and everyone and everything becomes sacred; just myriad expressions of the divine.

How we navigate our relationships now is key because the divine masculine and feminine dance is the very fabric of Life itself. Life is relationship, inter-connectivity, interdependence and co creation. We have masculine and feminine within so why not learn to make love with ourselves?!

It seems increasingly to me that what we were taught about love and romantic relationship is just a small piece of the picture and taken out of context may even be false.
When the majority of religion puts so much emphasis on an institution like marriage, which largely seems to be about subjugation, ownership and suppression of the divine feminine surely we should sit up and take note and ask why?
When the majority of religion uses fear to keep us away from the pleasures and ecstasy of communion through the portal of sacred sexuality shouldn’t we again ask why?
Perhaps there is something to be investigated and explored here!

‘There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground’ says Rumi and I believe that there are hundreds of ways to make Love with Life itself. Perhaps there are more ways of loving relationship between man and woman than the duality, the polarity of monogamy or celibacy? There is a new way of Life emerging. A new way of Loving. And so the journey into remembering who and what we truly are continues. Journey well. Namaste

 

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On Kindness

So I was at the supermarket checkout with my favourite cashier Serena yesterday, who I have a good rapport with. I gave her a copy of my book a few weeks earlier and while I pack my groceries we talk about my book and Love and The Goddess and other things.

Yesterday I was feeling really low. My body is busy doing some serious purging and my skin is sore in places and in particular my eyes. I often feel ugly and less than, when I am not looking/feeling my best. It’s an old story that is almost deleted about childhood eczema and my step mum’s response to my eczema as inconvenient for her and that I was causing extra work and that the fragments of love available were withheld for having eczema.

But Serena helped me massively yesterday in a few words that she she shared with me as I left. She mentioned how my eyes looked rather sore and suggested something that might help and as if she knew how I was feeling she added ‘ but you know you are still beautiful just as you are.’
In my tender state I almost burst into tears as this is my healing mantra of late which is reflected back to me in so many ways from so many beautiful people that I am blessed to have in my life. We shared a few sweet moments of eye contact and I thanked her deeply adding that if she was not behind the checkout I would have been giving her a big hug!

And I just share this little story to remind us of how powerful and important a few kindly spoken words can be to a friend or a ‘stranger’. It is worth remembering too that there really are no strangers. What we say to others is us speaking to ourselves since ‘others’ is just an illusion of the mind.

In these times of change and great opportunity let’s remember to be there for each other. Let’s practice random acts of kindness and speak only love as much as we can. You never know what a huge impact a word, a smile, a hug might have on your own or other’s lives.

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Do you understand the true nature of twin flame relationship? 

Twin Flames

‘Do not be fooled by Her sweet, alluring smile or lulled into a false sense of security by the kindness of Her gentle voice or the shy glances from Her pretty eyes.
She is a Siren and Her most precious gift to you, will be to entice you on to the Ocean of Love, to set sail, innocently unaware of the hidden secrets beneath Her sometimes calm and sometimes tempestuous waters.
The delicious curves of Her Goddess like form will invite you to navigate the stormy waves of Her ruthless integrity while your destiny beckons you onto the jagged rocks of your own fear and cowardice.
And there, as you lie bleeding and desolate, the poison that lay blocked and trapped in the deepest place of your pierced heart, will trickle forth and you shall be purged.
Your excruciating pain will ebb and flow to be dissolved in the infinite Ocean of Love while its salty water will both sting and cleanse your open wound.
And there will be a deep and profound healing as your self-worth and honour return.
Battered and bloody you shall crawl over the sharp rocks and then scramble to kinder ground to rest until you are ready to walk again;
Eventually dried by the sun’s rays and soothed by the cool breeze you will again stand; upright and proud, taller than you have ever been before you shall make your way back to your rightful throne, that awaited you for so long, empty and neglected.
And as you feel into the unfamiliarity and unexpected peace of this new place you shall be filled with a vast sense of wonder and awe and humility at the power and magic of Her.
And yes She too shall have her voyage for though She is a Siren She is a child too. And there will be times when Her wounds will need dressing; wounds from the coarse tear of old, binding ropes.
Tend them with your strong, loving hands.
She too will need to be held softly and tenderly while old tears fall from Her weary eyes rising up from the depths of Her wounded heart.
She will need your patience and kindness; there will be no place for fear infused thoughts, words or actions.
And yet She will test you time and time again to make sure you are worthy of entering the deepest places within Her sacred body and soul where holy treasures lie.
When you appear to fail, She may be ruthless at first but Her kindness will grow as She learns to trust and forgive once again.
Your discernment will need to be sharp and true if you are to be clear of when to cut through the emotional tangled knots of Her past;
And to know when to speak from the depths of your sovereignty in order to pull Her from the waters of her own floundering self-doubt.
You must know when to guide Her, though at first She will not be willing, addicted as She is to her own autonomy forged over years and years from the interminable weakness of previous lovers.
And you must know when to be guided by Her.
You must know when to listen softly and gently, holding Her hand tenderly or stroking Her silken hair while silencing the cacophony of voices in your head demanding you to advise or to fix or to mend.
Remember that She is your crystal clear mirror and that what you see in Her, is your Self.
What you forgive in Her is what you forgive in your Self.
She has come to destroy who you thought you were and to make you whole and your task is to gift Her the same treasure.
This new land will be beyond your wildest dreams.
Are you ready to be loved by a woman such as this?
Then lay down your weapons for the rules of engagement here are nakedness, vulnerability and deep, raw, honesty.
Your prize shall be a great peace within and Love will flow through and into you in a way which your mind could never have begun to comprehend.

Set sail on the Ocean of Love and set your course for home.’

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