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The Sacred Masculine – A New Man For A New Earth

Last night I was watching an action movie and noticed how the basis of the story-line was similar to so many other films that are all about action, adventure and the current paradigm of what it is to be a man.

In short the story-line was that the man loses his woman (usually in extremely unpleasant circumstances) and without the love of his life he becomes a lone wolf that is obsessed by his work which usually involves inflicting pain or death on others.

It horrifies me that this is the message that boys and young men are repeatedly bombarded with in subtle and not so subtle ways.  This type of man is strangely seen as something to aspire to. It is a man who shows very few feelings apart from a sort of righteous anger.  His communication is very limited and of course not only does he not show emotions but he never talks about them.  In my mentoring work with young men over the years I have observed a similar pattern.  Many young men struggle to speak of or express feelings and often the result of all the pent up emotions inside them is that at regular intervals it overflows like a shaken bottle of fizzy drink which has had the top unscrewed.  In this destructive state they usually inflict violence on others, smash their rooms up or punch walls etc. to inflict pain on themselves.  Other times this uncontrolled anger manifests as self harm through cutting or stealing a car and driving dangerously.  Another coping strategy to deal with this reservoir of unexpressed feelings is taking drugs. This was my chosen ‘medicine’ as it helps numb and anaesthetise the discomfort that is always present in the periphery of awareness.

In the movies, despite his strange and Neolithic behaviour this type of man is often portrayed as desirable to the leading woman in the story, who her-self seems to be as devoid of a healthy range of emotions as he is and is little more than a man in a ‘sexy’ female body!  These movies subtly encode this message into the psyche of our young men, women and those not so young men who are for the most part just boys in men’s bodies.

But the other thing that stands out for me, is that this story is also a telling of the myth of our time.  Just as the ‘hero’ in the movie lost his lover so has modern man lost touch with his feminine  he has lost the ability to feel and be love.  The masculine / feminine twin flame within most men (and women) is totally out of balance and distorted.  What remains of the healthy masculine is but a thin strand of what it really means to be a whole and healthy man; much of his masculine has become toxic and the denial of his feminine principles and qualities means that he is a stunted, ghost-like self which is a  fraction of his full sovereign and sacred potential.

Without the balance of the feminine, of the heart, of the ability to own , express and feel more fully man is lost and so he continues to inflict pain and suffering on others and the planet.  Instead of becoming a protector and the honourer of life he becomes the defiler and destroyer, an agent of death and suffering.

This is why I believe that the time of Sacred Masculinity has come.  It is the time for a new definition of what it means to be a warrior. It is time for a man who has the courage to make the epic journey back to his heart so that he may feel and awaken to the fullness of life; the man who knows that all life is sacred; the man who knows that everything is connected and that as he does to another he does to himself. Now is the time for a new type of hero for this movie we call Life.  It is the time of the Sacred Masculine – a new man for a New Earth.

 

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The Door is Open But Will You Step In?

What we perceive with our five senses of touch, smell, sight, taste and hearing is just the very tip of the ice-berg. There is much more ‘going on,’ much more data available in each moment than we can experience with the limitations of these human senses even though they are miraculous in themselves. If you need evidence of this just consider a bird on the lawn listening for the movement of worms beneath the surface. We can’t hear what a bird can hear because of the narrow band range within which our hearing operates. But never the less it exists. The same can be said of our smell if you consider how a dog can smell things from a distance that we cannot.  Nature provides endless evidence that there is more going on than we are aware. Wifi, electricity and radio waves etc are all invisible to our eyes but never-the-less we know they exist.  So this begs the question: What else is going on beyond the limitations of our senses?  The answer is that there are infinite possibilities and to begin to feel deeply into the miracle and mystery of life we must be open to this ‘not knowing’.

Secondly we need to be aware of the limitations of our minds. It seems to me that what we can perceive with our minds is possibly just a small puddle and beyond our usual human mind perception is an infinite ocean.  This is what Hesse alluded to in his book ‘Beyond The Doors Of Perception.’ It is ignorant and arrogant to believe that what we can comprehend is the totality of what actually exists. This is what Einstein was referring to when he said ‘Imagination is greater than knowledge,’ because first something new must be birthed or arrive in our minds through imagination but where does that idea or thought arrive from?  I suspect that it arrives from ‘beyond the veil’ of what we can ‘get our heads round’. This is in essence the dance of the masculine and feminine or yin and yang as the feminine is constantly birthing or manifesting creation in its myriad forms and that from which this arises is the masculine principle or consciousness.  From the emptiness comes fullness. Form moves and is birthed from stillness.  If we are able to entertain this truth, this then logically offers the question ‘what else lies beyond the veil?’  I propose that the answer is infinite possibilities.  And remember that infinity is rather large and itself is something else that we can’t really comprehend with our minds!

There is a bigger unknown picture that we are part of.  Perhaps it is time to really KNOW this and to walk through the door of perception. It is always open. <3

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The Kiss of Awakening

I remember my first proper kiss with my Beloved.  I was distinctly surprised by the passion, intensity and power of the kiss, as until that moment she had seemed quite shy and reserved.  It was a beautiful moment and the power of a kiss is something that has stayed with me.

On one of my many walks on the land I recently remembered the fairy story of Sleeping Beauty and how she is awakened by a kiss from the prince. I was immediately struck that it seemed to be the other way round in my experience and that there was something so magical and powerful about the kiss that I experienced from woman that it gave me the courage to undergo the next challenging part of my own awakening.  To all intents and purposes I was still asleep as I had not yet faced the dragon of old emotional pain that lay waiting for me in the darkest cave of my own deep mother wound. The kisses from my Beloved and our adventures in sacred sexuality was a great motivator to stay the course when things got really challenging!

Looking at things from more of a macro perspective it does seem that in this path of ascension or awakening that it is woman who leads the way.  There are many more women who are immersed in the field of spiritual growth than men and this seems to be connected to some extent by the fact that women are more in their bodies than men.  Giving birth, periods and their connection with Mother Earth the Great Creator Goddess is key in this.  Most of us now know that the we must fully embody our humanity if we are to enter the realms of the 5th dimension or the New Earth in which Love becomes the primary energy as opposed to fear but men often struggle with this.

Men have grown up with the programming that ‘big boys don’t cry’ and have been conditioned to avoid, suppress and numb out any feelings that have been labelled as demonstrating weakness or revealing that they are anything but fully in their strength and power. This seems to be the unconscious message of patriarchy in a disastrous attempt to maintain ‘power over’ and pretend that ‘it’s all okay, everything is under control’ while the planet and sentient beings suffer. Of course women have suffered the craziness of denying emotions too but not to the extent that men have and this is one of the reasons why in the United Kingdom alone 16 men commit suicide every day.

But the reality is that the energy of the Sacred Man is rising. If it is rising in me it is happening in others and recent encounters and feedback from my community of conscious brothers and sisters echoes this. How do we catalyse this further awakening amongst men? One thing for sure is that it is not always helpful for women to keep asking where are all the conscious men? My answer to this is always the same:

Your beliefs will determine your reality.  If you believe there are few conscious men that is what your experience will be. Don’t sit around waiting for them to show up or complaining when the ‘wrong’ man arrives because whoever is there. In front of you, will to some extent, be a mirror reflection of your own inner masculine energy. Focus on healing your own inner masculine because the wounds that patriarchy has inflicted stretch back through many generations and run deep in men and women and there is much work to be done to create the New Earth and merge in the yin yang union of divine masculine and feminine so that we can re-member that we are One. We are Life itself having a human, virtual reality, duality experience. Don’t all the great teachers and mystics say that we experience duality to know Oneness!?  Instead of men and women berating each other why don’t we ask ourselves the question:

What can I do to help and serve my brothers or my sisters?

A safe bet is always: Do your inner work!

Society encourages us to look outside to find peace and happiness but transformation and healing is essentially always an inside job. Others and tools may help but it is us who have to learn to fall in love with ourselves and to do this we must face and banish all that is not love from within.

Let’s not get too hung up on gender and swing the pendulum from patriarchal abuse of power to man bashing and a whole new wave of spiritual bypass feminism.  The crimes against women by man for hundreds of years have been an abomination and so much of this continues right now and although we would do well to alleviate the immediate suffering, the long term solution, the roots of healing the craziness of disharmony between man and woman lies in deepening our own sacred practices and alchemising the divine twin flame union within each of us.

In this life time we are either in a male or female body but let’s not get too fixated about this.  I wonder how many lifetimes I have experienced as a woman? I just happen to be in male body this time but I know that beneath this façade of gender I am genderless.  Beneath the ideas of God or Goddess The Creator, The Great mystery or consciousness is genderless. We are all in this together and now is the time for the laying down of weapons. The time for unity, union, balance and harmony. It sounds very likely that patriarchy hijacked the sleeping beauty story and that its origins actually lie in the Babylonian myth of the Goddess Innana who ventured into the underworld to kiss awake her lover Tammuz. And this myth seems to be happening right now again. We are all living this myth but note that the myth says that Innana kissed Tammuz and he awoke, not that she kicked him and he awoke!!

The kiss of a lover is a powerful and magical act as I know from my own experience.  Let’s facilitate lots of inner kissing of our divine masculine and feminine principles and let’s see how this shows up in the world.  I believe passionate, loving kisses between men and women and women and women and men and men would be a good thing. It doesn’t really bother me who is kissing who. Let’s just focus on kissing ourselves and each other awake.

Love and kisses. Namaste…

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Bring Him Home – A Twin Flame Love Story

Sometimes you realise that there is something that you need to do or say that you can’t not do!   As soon as the idea arrived to write the story about my transformative twin flame experience I knew that I had to do it. I knew that I had a deep and rich story to share that might touch hearts.  I also felt that by sharing my story there was the potential to help people realise that we are, to a large extent, all living different versions of the same story.  What I mean by this is that we all appear to be subject to the same textures, colours and emotions of this diverse human landscape, they are all experienced in varying degrees and evoked by different scenarios and scripts that are perfectly in alignment for the highest evolution of our souls.

I have learnt that vulnerability is a super power and by sharing the stories of my life it helps me to embrace and honor all the different aspects of who I truly am. At the same time it gives others the permission to relax into imperfection and be okay with sometimes feeling sad, broken, lost and confused too. Societal norms suggest that we keep our shortcomings or weaknesses to ourselves but when we share our challenges everyone breathes a sigh of relief in the confirmation that it is not just them that struggles, gets things wrong and falls down at times. Self-acceptance is perhaps one of the most important qualities to put in our back-pack of tools and resources for the journey back home to self-actualization and union.

They say that relationship is the highest form of yoga and as I wrote I began to see that I wanted to share my experience that evidenced that this approach to relationship is true; that the deepest purpose behind intimate relationship is to know, honour, heal and love ourselves in order to actualize the twin flame divine union within.

As my profound transformation began to settle inside me a new clarity emerged as I wrote and I began to see clearly that this story had other value too. I saw that there was the potential for the healing energy transmission woven into the fabric of the book, to have the power to go beyond our personal stories and to permeate into the very essence of the sacred story of humanity. I speak of the big story which sees the end of duality, conflict and separation to the return of peace, harmony, union and Oneness.

I believe that my little story (as are all of our stories) is a microcosm of what is awakening all over the planet: men and women are beginning to lay down their weapons and come together with compassion and understanding to each do his or her own work in order to heal generations of separation and mistrust.

And as artists we play a significant role in this paradigm shift, in this re-LOVE-ution! In many ways the artist is a modern shaman because through music, art, words etc. he / she is able to bring information and wisdom from beyond the veil into consciousness and enable people to see and experience, that which previously was not visible. Once things are brought into the light of awareness the magic can begin to do its work and in this way to write, to spell words is a form of magic, to write from the heart, from a place of clear, loving intention is a medium for casting a powerful spell!

As Rumi the Sufi mystic poet wrote: ‘there are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground.’ I increasingly saw that my gift and ability to write was my way to kneel and kiss the ground.

So the more I relaxed into the alchemy and magic of creating this book, the more deeply my intention became clear that this story would be a healing catalyst to help bring about the divine union of man and woman.

This path of sacred union is the place that life has guided me to explore, as a result of wounds (or gifts) that I received when I was very young.  The culmination of my beautiful and at times painful relationship experiences, find their expression within the pages of this book.  I decided that not only would these pages be a prayer of gratitude for the sacredness of union with another human being but they would also be an offering, some possible guidance and inspiration for others doing their best to navigate this often challenging and yet highly rewarding terrain. It’s not that I claim to be an expert in realtionships (the following pages are testament to this) or that I have all the answers. On the contrary, I am not interested in telling the reader what to do or how to feel, rather, my aim is to show the reader how I felt in my experience, so that they may learn from it and utilize the lessons in their lives.

It seems that the divine twin flame union within each human and the sacred union of man and woman is a foundational shift that is beginning to take place on this planet.  If we are to create a more beautiful, peaceful and loving world for our children and the generations to come we need to learn what union and Love really is and part of this journey of remembering what love is, is discovering what it is not.

In many ways I see my life as a book that I am working on. I keep scribbling and writing, keeping some bits and discarding others that don’t fit or belong anymore. I have come to the point in my life where I have rearranged lines, pages, paragraphs and chapters so that now I am beginning to understand the story of my life and what it was all about. This life editing process is the culmination of what I share with you in the pages of this book and that the conclusion is that it’s all about love. We just have to have the courage and determination to set out on this incredible journey of discovery to experience for ourselves what love really is!

May this book shine a little light to illuminate your path back home.

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The Time of Balance

The union of the twin flame divine masculine and feminine energies is NOW!

We are in eclipse season. The sun, the moon, the earth, light and shadow are all moving and merging in their cosmic dance and that dance is taking place within each and every one of us. The universe is inside us and we are inside the universe. Look at the word closely – the truth is often hidden in plane sight!
The Uni – Verse ~ Uni means One and Verse is the regular rhythm of a poem or song. The Universe is one song, one poem one dance with no separation. All is One and it is only the limitation of our senses that perceives separation. We live a paradox of separation and Oneness. That is why we came here into this awesome, miraculous diverse field of existence – to know both. By knowing, experiencing duality we can know One ness and the Universal dance that we are part of, that is in essence who we are.
This dance of the masculine and feminine is an integral part of this universal dance. It is what lies beneath, at the centre of everything, of All. The masculine consciousness and the feminine manifestation of life, the emergence into being, pure creativity birthing constantly. These are not gender bound but we take this male and female form to bring the play of the dance into form.
The feminine was lost, was hidden for many years and only the masculine energy was worshipped and so everything went out of balance. Without balance there can be no realisation of the truth of who and what we truly are. This feminine energy is rising and being realigned in men and women and the same for the masculine energy.
The balance is being restored and the disharmony between the masculine and feminine energy is over. We facilitate this return to unity in our hearts, in our bodies. As we remember to remind our inner child that he/ she is now safe and loved we can return to our divine sovereignty as man and woman living from our true essence of love, truth, compassion and knowing that we are all interconnected. That we are all One and as we do to another or the earth, we do unto ourselves.
The lover you seek, the peace you seek is inside you. Everything is inside you. Do not be distracted by the false promises of the lost societies that we are immersed in. Choose to immerse yourself in the inner kingdom, in the arms of Gaia and you will come home to yourself. It’s a wild and windy and rocky road at times but remember that the journey IS the destination. You are more powerful than you have been led to believe.
Allow the past, the old timelines to fall away. Do not fall prey to fear, to the old stories of your mind, turn down the volume of its dialogue that is like an over anxious parent wanting you to stay in the known. Have the courage to step into the unknown for it is there that treasure awaits you. Allow yourself to open to the possibility of peace and love and being Home Right Now.

I AM Safe. I AM Peace. I AM Home. I AM.

Now is the time of Balance. The Uni-Verse is conspiring to make this as easy as possible. Will you join the dance? Will you surrender to the music? Are you ready to come Home?

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Healing The Wounded Inner Child

‘The foundations of toxic masculinity are built on the crushed heart of the inner child.’ Jason MacKenzie

When man and woman come together if there is any wounding that remains from childhood the inner child will soon let you know about it!!

I thought that my inner child was feeling pretty safe and content but he was not and he wreaked havoc with emotional tantrum after emotional tantrum as my beloved and I tried to come close. All this was fear based. I don’t believe it was particularly toxic because I have a high level of self awareness but I concur totally with MacKenzie’s words, because without self awareness the wound will be projected into the world and blame will be cast upon the partner when there is little or no clarity and understanding and one fails to take responsibility.

Inside each of us there is a little boy and little girl. Just when I think that my inner child is at peace something else comes up for me to see and clear. Something from the deep arises when your childhood was a patchwork of trauma.
This has been happening of late and has triggered a recurring of physical symptoms that I suffered when I was a boy. The body brings my awareness to letting go of another old story, another old timeline to be dissolved with love and tenderness and vigilance. Letting go, letting go…surrendering; surrendering deeper and deeper. Softening more and more. Less external and therefore internal judgement. It is time for peace, for good health.
I bless the current situation that triggered the old wound that needed to be seen so that the light of consciousness could shine it’s light upon it, so that it may be released with love and compassion and forgiveness for all involved.
Yes, maybe the treatment we suffered was inexcusable but now it is time to find peace. Now is a new day, a new moment a new present is gifted.
Travel slow and listen to Life’s whispers because She will show you all that needs to fall away to reveal the Love and Light that you truly are.
Go gently.
When the inner child of a man and woman meet in peace and harmony and joy, then there will be a dance to behold unlike anything you could have imagined. Then divine union becomes inevitable.

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