Tag - Woman

If You Come To My Door

If you come to my door then please leave your mind by the path on the garden gate.

It’s not that there is a problem with your mind, you have a beautiful mind, it’s just that it gets a little lost and scared at times.

Do not leave it by my door because it will bounce and jump, so that it can peak through the windows.

Hang it gently, tenderly on the gatepost as if it were your favourite bag with a box of eggs inside.

 

If you come to my door then take my outstretched hand for you are most welcome into this sacred space.

Let me take your coat and shoes and take a seat while I prepare you something warm and soothing to sip.

Show me with your eyes when you are ready to be held and I will wrap my strong arms around you so that you will know that you are safe and cherished.

And allow me the pleasure of nuzzling under the tumble of your thick brown curls so that I can breathe you in; your exquisite, delicate, feminine fragrance.

 

If you come to my door please allow me to prepare some food for us while you lay looking so beautiful on the sofa, and rest your sleepy body.

When our bellies are full let’s watch our spirits swirl and blend with the gentle, warm music and soft, cosy candle light.

 

If you come to my door then perhaps my body will dance and move for you as it has never done before and I will lay back when I am spent and watch your curves ebb and flow to the rhythm of your life’s passion for itself.

If you come to my door then perhaps you will also come to my bed. Perhaps I will lay my hands on you where they are moved to be or I will breathe into you the sacred Lover’s breath and allow the magic to pulsate, to move and tremble your open, physical form.  And the releasing, the transforming will be done with tears and laughter while a  deep reverence and gratitude for this human experience shall join us and watch in awe.

Then we shall lay together and I will caress your face allowing the memories and old fears to surface gently like rainbow bubbles whose time has come to burst.

Please come to my door for your love blesses me as it undoes and dissolves that which was never really me.

Your outstretched hand as I go to leave the bed says so sweetly and tenderly ‘don’t go my love. Stay a while longer.  I want you.’ Your wanting melts my heart and tears for all the unloved and unwanted parts of my self rise up.

And when we are done with our healing, our feeling, our letting go, then we will slip into a hot bath together to wash each other and feel the wet contours of these miraculous human lives. Frankincense and Lavender oil to anoint these sacred bodies that know and feel so much.

If you come to my door then know that I will miss you when you leave; even though we both know that Love can never really leave itself.

If you come to my door…

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Celebrating Fucked-up-ness

Deep acceptance and acknowledgement seems to be the most powerful medicine there is.

Even ‘letting go’ or ‘surrender’ has an energy of something that needs to be removed, deleted or given up which can lead to a subtle conflict and feelings of resistance; of must and should and ought. Guilt or shame or blame are usually not far from these words, ideas and concepts of the mind.

Acceptance seems to drop down from the mind into the heart space. The mind can do little with acceptance, there can be no real ongoing commentary or debate apart from perhaps the argument that acceptance is not good enough. Because we have been taught that we must put effort in and work hard ALL of the time even if we end up exhausting ourselves, even if this path does not really honour ourselves.

How can acceptance, doing so little really result in so much transformation? Perhaps it is like these small eyes in our heads which see SO much. Sometimes less is more!!

Perhaps acceptance is the sister of Love and recognition or awareness is the brother of Love

WE are all so beautifully fucked up. Our fucked-up-ness is our perfection. ‘Imperfection’ with a subtle change of perspective becomes: I’m perfection!!

And it’s not a hard, judgmental ‘Fucked Up’ it’s a soft gently loving kind of acknowledgement. Like Christopher Robin would say to Winnie The Pooh ‘Silly old bear’. That’s the tone of voice we use in acknowledging our fucked-up-ness. A gentle, compassionate, non judgmental tone that wants to wrap strong, gentle arms around you for being so beautifully, uniquely fucked up.

Today is a good day for celebrating our tender, fragile, fucked-up-ness. And as we accept and acknowledge and transform in ourselves we can do the same for others as we deepen our realisation that there really is no other.

The Divine in me sees the sweet Divine fucked-up -ness in you…

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Divine Feminine Moon

So here we are again you and I fair lady of the night.
Again you have slipped into my bed naked save for your silvery splendour.
What is it you want from me?
Why is it that you cast your full glance upon me
And insist I do not sleep but instead that I lay awake with you?
What kind of Lover are you
That you come and go from my bed as if it were yours?

Speak clearly now for you have my full attention.
My mind, body and soul are yours and I need not give permission
For you will do with them as you please.

These restless tides are yours that carry me beyond the shores of my mind,
In search of distant lands that I do not know.
On the oceans of Why and How and Perhaps you cast me adrift,
Seemingly never to reach a place where answers lie.

But, for tonight, you shall have your way with me.
And we will make strange Love again,
For I really have no choice.
Yes I will lie with you now,
And again when the time comes,
For one thing is clear:
I am yours.

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Working Toward Divine Union of Sacred Masculine and Feminine

We know unequivocally that the return to peace and love and communion between man and woman is a key part of creating ‘the more beautiful world that our hearts know is possible’ perhaps for our selves but more importantly for the children and the generations to come.

But where do we begin with this seemingly huge piece of work that needs to be done when there seems to be so much disharmony and separation between many men and women? Where there could be intimacy and closeness or even direct experience of the Oneness of Life through the merging of two hearts and souls in complete Love and surrender there are often vast wastelands of separation.

In my experience when confronted with a daunting task, pretty much anywhere is a good place to begin. There are no wrong choices when we decide to do what needs to be done. The only wrong choice is to do nothing.

It seems to me that when I look back on my journey the greatest steps to freedom and peace have been made when I look within. It’s important to remember that the outer world we experience with our senses is but a reflection of our inner world, the stories we have created to make sense of our experiences and our beliefs which are sometimes unconscious.

There are key indicators that will inform you what your beliefs are around intimate relationship with the opposite sex. Here is one:

What is your relationship like with your mother or father? To what extent are you at peace with them? To what extent is there still a parent child dynamic? How honest are you with them?

Our parents form templates on which we unconsciously base our later adult relationships.

After many years I am at peace with my father who was absent because of his career choice and I am at peace with step mother who was pretty abusive for most of my childhood. But it took a while to arrive at this place.

I achieved this with little or no conversations about the matter with my parents. I worked mostly with one question?

What do I need to do in order to become the parent to myself now that I wish I had when I was a child?

It’s pretty simple. You find out what you feel you missed out on and you give it to your self now, and you give it to everyone you meet too. It’s pretty simple really. It just takes commitment and perseverance and a little resilience and patience. If you really want something then you will do what it takes.

This work facilitates and catalyses the inner marriage of masculine and feminine within each of us.
This one exercise alone is extremely key in healing the wounds within so that we become a clearer, cleaner and brighter proposition for a potential suitor. Real Change is always an INSIDE job! If you are looking outwardly and blaming and critcising the opposite sex then maybe it would be worth looking within a little more. When you change the energy of who you are then your world and the people you meet will change too.

Let’s not get lost in blaming and shaming like children; let’s take full responsibility for our own shit, let’s have the courage where we could to do more…no matter how many times we have been let down in the past, when the conditions are right, when the ground is prepared with love and care and vigilance, then beautiful flowers will grow and miracles do happen.

 

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Yes! Love is a way of Life! 

Are you being undone too? Unraveled? Is there confusion in the mind?
It seems to me that confusion in the mind arises when false and truth meet.
It seems that the old lies, programming, the shackles and chains, the blinkers are falling apart, their grip is loosening and the truth is emerging more and more and because it is so radically different from what we were taught to believe it causes confusion.
We have reached the edged of the map and there is only a blank page now. There is nothing recorded to follow and so we must make the path by placing one foot in front of the other, Integrity, truth, love and kindness are the components of the compass that guide us now. And remembering…we are remembering.

Love is not about a relationship with someone or a select few!
When we realise the Love that we are, we fall in Love with Life itself and everyone and everything becomes sacred; just myriad expressions of the divine.

How we navigate our relationships now is key because the divine masculine and feminine dance is the very fabric of Life itself. Life is relationship, inter-connectivity, interdependence and co creation. We have masculine and feminine within so why not learn to make love with ourselves?!

It seems increasingly to me that what we were taught about love and romantic relationship is just a small piece of the picture and taken out of context may even be false.
When the majority of religion puts so much emphasis on an institution like marriage, which largely seems to be about subjugation, ownership and suppression of the divine feminine surely we should sit up and take note and ask why?
When the majority of religion uses fear to keep us away from the pleasures and ecstasy of communion through the portal of sacred sexuality shouldn’t we again ask why?
Perhaps there is something to be investigated and explored here!

‘There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground’ says Rumi and I believe that there are hundreds of ways to make Love with Life itself. Perhaps there are more ways of loving relationship between man and woman than the duality, the polarity of monogamy or celibacy? There is a new way of Life emerging. A new way of Loving. And so the journey into remembering who and what we truly are continues. Journey well. Namaste

 

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Balancing the Masculine and Feminine Within

‘If any human being is to reach full maturity both the masculine and feminine sides of the personality must be brought up into consciousness’. – M. Esther Harding

‘Ultimately, there is no division in life – it is the human mind that likes to label and separate things. The masculine and feminine are therefore two sides of the same coin.’

The state of our inner marriage (twin flame union) is often a good indicator and will mirror the quality of the relationships we have in the world.
The relationships I have with other men reflects to a large extent the relationship and health of my inner masculine which is largely to do with healing father wounds. In the same way I see that as I have healed and transformed my mother wounds and my inner feminine is increasingly healthy and at peace, this is reflected by the relationships and connections with women who show up in my world.

So it’s somewhat simplified but if you are single man and you want a good woman in your life then work on nurturing your inner feminine and when the time is right and your inner work has made good progress a woman will show up as a direct reflection of where you are now in your journey of inner marriage. She will almost certainly be kind enough to show you where there is still work to be done and there is still room for improvement too!
And the same will apply for a single woman that would like to be in a relationship with a man. Look within first…do your work… 🙂

Union within us reflects union in our outer relationships.
And inner balance means that we are deeper into the realms of self actualisation and this means that we are clearer conduits to express and channel and Be and embody Love and Truth, which is most welcome in the world at this powerful time of transformation and creation of a New Earth for ourselves, the children and generations to come.

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